How to stay alone and feel happy about it?

People around you think that there must be something wrong if you’re alone. Yes, we admit it or not; but this is the world of extroverts. Basically, you have to market every time about everything to connect to people around you, isn’t it! Introverts literally have a very small scope to be admired.

Ok, I guess you are reading this post because you too are somewhere struggling to fit into the group of so-called ‘Socialites’ and bunches of extroverts. Voila, I am an introvert and I heartily welcome you to my world of loneliness which of course is full of surprises and fun. Let me tell you the advantages that you are going to have being alone.

1.      Let your Mind walk alone-

In Buddhist psychology, there are 8 kinds of consciousness. Smelling, hearing, seeing, touching and tasting are the first 5. The sixth is consciousness of our mind which controls our body, seventh is discriminating consciousness which helps us to discriminate good and bad or white from black. And what controls our memory is the eighth consciousness. When we talk too much or surrounded by crowd, these last three consciousness split apart and don’t function properly. As a result, you slow down at work, forget quickly and lack decision making abilities. Thus, being alone or talking less gives your brain the desired rest that it needs.

2.      Be imaginative and creative-

Utilise your imaginations and access your innermost thoughts to bring cobwebs of creative ideas to the platter. Thus, embracing solitude can be your weapon to excel in professions that require imagination and creativity like photography, copy writing, ads making, interior designing, cooking, fashion designing and what not!

3.      Think before act –

Well, who know this better than us! We are the master of thinking before acting and thus, we hardly spring up any cat fights or quarrels. We listen, nod heads and enjoy the quarrelsome conversations. (Wink)We proactively take part in everything as an active listener right? We speak less and share our opinions only when someone asks for. Be it resolving issues at work, or dealing with cunning landlord, we handle everything so peacefully.

4.      Handle breakups, bullying-

Heartbreaks definitely hurt but the post heart-break hibernation stage is easy for a lonely person to handle than the one who is always surrounded by group of people. You can go out alone for a shopping, watch movie, gulp in some spicy tangy street food and come home with a mindful of creative ideas to keep yourself involved for the next few days. Well, I usually used to change the get up of my home when I have nothing else to do. Be it changing the wall paint or adding a DIY wall decor, the whole new idea of the project just keep me up on my toes. 

5.      Self dependency in old age-

As you grow old you find people take less interest in what you say. They will not give you much of importance in everyday life. It will hurt your self esteem unless you go to give them your view when they have not asked for. Exactly, that my point is! Give your advice when someone asks otherwise preserve your valuable experiences like you always did throughout your life. Trust me, it won’t be a tough call to stay quiet, neither you will be hurt in your old days because you have always loved to spend time alone.     

So who are we? We are leaders, the world changers; we are lovers of logic and left-brained geniuses; we are dreamers, travellers, adventurers and enlightenment seekers. We can proudly say - we are not shy; we are introverts. We are the revolutionists, changing the world in our own QUIET way.